Are You A
Victim Of FABS? Part One
by: Sibyl McLendon
Have you heard of the FABS? The
FABS are quadruplets; they are not identical but they are very, very similar!
The FABS are: Fear, Anger, Blame and Shame. This quartet love to arrive,
uninvited, at people's houses and literally stay forever. They will certainly
stay as long as you allow them to; they never seem to get tired of hanging
around and causing troubles for the unsuspecting host.
The FABS love to attach
themselves to abused children, but they really lie in wait for anyone who is
vulnerable. Children who have been abused learn early that the world is an
unsafe place, and that they have no personal power with which to protect
themselves. They internalize everything that is done to them, and believe
everything that is said to them. This provides a fertile environment for the
FABS to flourish in. And usually, all of the fear, anger, blame and shame is
directed squarely at the self. The child feels at fault for everything that
However, the FABS can move in on
anyone at any time. When life becomes too stressful or hurtful, then it
provides an opening for the FABS to move in. Whenever a person feels guilty for
their actions then the side door opens and the FABS can sneak in.
FABS live in the dark. They tend
to hide in the dark corners of our minds, avoiding the light of day at all
costs. If the sun were to shine on the FABS then it is very likely that the
host would take immediate steps to eliminate them. It is much easier to lurk in
the subconscious and just spring out whenever the opportunity presents itself.
Then the FABS kick in and keep the host from moving forward in their lives.
Some of the symptoms of FABS in
your life are:
infested with FABS are often overweight because they use food as a medication,
unknowingly trying to eliminate the pain that FABS causes; or they use weight
as protection against an uncertain and painful world. Excess weight can be a
wonderful buffer, and can become as comforting as a favorite blanket. FABS
sufferers often have back problems as well, because they consciously or
unconsciously feel that they have no support in their lives. Lack of emotional
FABS have moved into your life they are extremely hard to get rid of, but not
impossible by any means! It takes work, dedication and a real desire to get
them out of your life. You may need a good FABS exterminator, which can be a
therapist or a personal coach. Getting rid of the FABS in your life is a very
important step to take, no matter how difficult it may be. Once they are gone,
you cannot imagine how good life will feel, how bright the sun shines and how
far you can go on your path!
About The Author
Sibyl McLendon is 1/2 Navajo,
and is a personal spiritual coach for Circle Of Grace http://www.circle-of-grace.com. Circle Of Grace is a unique
blending of Native American spirituality and holistic wellness coaching. Sign
up for a free coaching session! Sibyl can be contacted at firstname.lastname@example.org
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