Top 10 Secrets for Being
One of my favorite songs is
Bobby McFerrin’s refrain, "Don’t Worry, Be Happy". I recently
had the opportunity to observe people’s reactions when a highway was closed
because of an accident ahead. As we waited, I watched as some listened to
radios, a few began tossing a Frisbee, others seemed to be working or reading,
and some opted for a quick nap. But, there were also a handful who were
clearly agitated and angry. Pacing about, swearing, and upset, they
decided that the best response to this event, which none of us could control,
was to be very unhappy. I was reminded of Abraham Lincoln’s comment that,
"Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to
be." The following are my Top 10 Tips to increase happiness in your
Decide to be a happy person. As Lincoln observed, most people, most of the time, can choose
how stressed or happy, how troubled or relaxed they want to be. Choose to be
2. Watch and Read less
a recovering news addict, I know this can be difficult because the stock market
fluctuates, politicians politic, and sports teams compete. But, most of
the time, you don’t need the stress. So, just don’t watch. I think it
was Henry Thoreau who noted that if you’ve ever read about a train wreck, you
understand the principle and don’t need to know any more about it.
3. Practice the Attitude of Gratitude. We all have so much to be grateful for. Just thanking the many people who assist us, encourage us, teach us and open doors for us could take all day!
4. Take Time. My dog has taught me much
about loyalty, about noticing the sights, sounds, and smells in the yard, about
being relaxed and about play. Eat when you’re hungry, nap when you need
it. Get your ears scratched whenever possible!
5. Laugh everyday. Hear a joke, tell a joke,
laugh at yourself, laugh with your friends and family and co-workers. There are
very few medicines as powerful as laughter, and I don’t think you can
over-dose, although it is addicting!
6. Love well. Express your affection,
appreciation, friendship and warmth to those around you, and they will almost
always respond in the most amazing ways! Be generous…it pays great
7. Work hard. This one comes as a bit
of a surprise, but there is tremendous satisfaction in being competent, and joy
in completing our assigned tasks. One of the great sources of happiness is
to do work that is worthy of you, and to do it well.
8. Learn something new,
To be happy, most of us must also be growing, expanding, learning and
challenging ourselves. Read, listen, adapt and stretch to accommodate new
ideas and new information.
9. Use your body as it was
Walk and run, stretch, throw things, and lift
things. Dance! Exercise is good, but so is making love, mixing up a
batch of cookies, or exchanging backrubs. You have a body and it can be either
a source of joy, or a source of aches and pains. Your choice.
10: Avoid toxins. I prefer writing
positives (things to do) rather than negatives (things to fear), but reality
says there are negative people and there are bad chemicals, stressful noises,
and unsafe places. Don’t go there! Avoid poisons whenever
possible. It seems to work out better that way.
Copyright 2003 by
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