The following article is taken from the September 18, 2007 edition of Bottom Line’s Daily Health News newsletter and is reprinted here in its entirety by permission of Boardroom, Inc.



Every now and again, old concepts rise to the surface in a new and glittery format. So it was recently with The Secret, the book that spawned much brouhaha including on "The Oprah Winfrey Show." Its central thesis was the re-packaged -- but hardly new -- law of attraction. Roughly defined, the law comes down to this -- your thinking can and does manifest what comes into your life, such that positive thinking creates positive results and, conversely, negative thinking creates negative results. A simple example: You know that expensive white shirt you own? The one you are always nervous about spotting when you wear it? And, "magically" you actually do get a spot on it each time? Yet you don't spot the shirts you don't worry about. Funny isn't it?


Since tuning in to the law of attraction, I have seen it play out not only in my own life but also in the lives of those around me -- at work, at home and in the headlines of the newspaper. It's amazingly powerful once you get the hang of it. It can totally change your life. Want to know the secret? I asked life coach Lauren Zander ( to help explain.





The principle of manifesting -- the act of creating a fully satisfying life through great clarity in your thinking, your desires and in how you merge the two -- is one Lauren fully supports. But it's not so easy. If it were we would all be walking around with a million dollars in the bank. In her coaching practice, Lauren has found the ability to manifest one's life to be an incredibly powerful tool that goes well beyond the law of attraction. She explains that the law of attraction focuses on what people wish would happen and ignores what they actually think and feel about themselves, the truths about how they feel on a deep level. As an example, let's say your desire is to get a good job and you fantasize about doing so. But if lurking under your wish are deep beliefs that no one likes you and you never get the jobs you want, all the wishing in the world won't get you the job because the real content of what you are manifesting -- that you are a loser -- determines your outcomes.


This brings us to the missing step in the law of attraction -- to reach your life wishes you must first carefully and honestly search out who you are, and your history, including what you really think and feel about yourself and your life. Only by finding out what you don't like about yourself and your current life and exploring your negative beliefs can you start to make changes. It is deep work, says Lauren, but doing it matters because this is how you get to the place where you can successfully manifest life the way you want it to be.





Interestingly, the wishes you have for your life are valuable as an important first indicator of where you should start your work. The reason: Your wishes reflect the areas where you can't even imagine yourself achieving happiness, your blocks in life. If you honestly believed you could achieve these things, you would not be making wishes, you would be doing it. For instance, let's say you wish you had a happier marriage. But if in your heart you don't believe it is possible, you are actually doing nothing or very little to bring it about. Most people focus on why things are not possible. But, if you believe a happier marriage is possible for you, you naturally picture what it would be like to create more intimacy and fun with your mate and how you can have more enjoyment in your life together -- and you would then start doing those things. Voila, wish fulfilled.


In this process of self-discovery, you work with what Lauren calls your real team players, your mind and your heart. Your mind and your heart have very different jobs and must come together as a team. Your heart will tell you your deep desires or wishes, but you must listen to it without letting your mind make judgments or criticisms about the message. Once you let yourself identify your heart's desires, only then is it time to take on your mind. But be warned, getting its cooperation is a challenge. Our mind is constantly busy, planning and worrying in its role of protector to keep us on a "safe and careful" path doing what we've done the way we've always done it. These ingrained defense mechanisms are the inner voices that harp on us continuously to be rational and sensible about life. We are not in the habit of forming new traits so much as we are in the habit of defending old ones -- so manifesting takes us out of our regular dialogue and starts us talking about what else is possible. To move forward you must get your mind in alignment with your heart about wishes and beliefs. You need to open your mind to see that your wishes are possible for you -- yes, you -- to achieve, and with its help you will.





Okay, now you are ready for the next big step -- get rid of all negative thinking. Lauren has her students keep "thought logs" to achieve this. For one week they write down every negative thought they have, whether about themselves, others, even inner nasty observances about people walking down the street. She reports that this is usually a lot of fun because you start to see how ridiculous -- and constant -- negative words make their way into your brain. The goal of the log is to catch all negative thoughts as they start to form and turn them back -- in this case the old advice, "just say no," actually works. The mind is always directing energy someplace and this is your first step in learning how to direct it in positive directions. By heightening your awareness of the negative behavior, you can catch it and stop yourself.


So now you know what you need to work on and you are eradicating your negativity. You are ready to begin the process. Again, this is deep work, but Lauren says it need not be hard. The key is to keep at it, keep paying attention, and do not set time lines or deadlines. What to do:


·                     Set aside time every day for manifesting. Just like a sport, this takes lots of practice to get good at, so do it religiously. It will transform you from being a novice into an expert. And don't worry about how long it takes -- it will happen as it happens.

·                     Keep a journal in which you make note of what you want to have happen and what your feelings are about it, including the fears you have and need to release. Can you believe it is possible for you to get that new job? Or the new house? Or a great marriage? Or a better relationship with your children? If not, why not? Keep writing until you reach the point where you honestly believe achieving is possible, says Lauren. It has happened to others, it can happen to you.

·                     Start with simple wishes and decide the actions and activities you need to do to get your wish fulfilled. Then do them, including the ones that scare you, such as asking for a raise or telling someone you are unhappy.

·                     Write in your journal every night to focus your current manifestations for the future. Lauren, who has been doing this for years, says she can follow her career path by reviewing past journals -- it is all there. Write how you feel, the future you would like for yourself and then the actions that will direct you to that place.


Lauren calls this process the law of assumption, rather than the law of attraction. First you create the belief in yourself that generates an honest assumption that you can have the life you say you want to have -- you can see it, feel it, deserve it. Then, and only then, can you manifest it into existence.



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