Learning How To
Fall ... You Have To Learn To Fall Before You Can Ride With Confidence!
by: Edward B. Toupin
About a month ago, I was hit by
a car while riding my motorcycle. The car side-swiped me and took off. My bike
bounced off the car, shot out from under me, and I rolled under the car.
Amazingly enough, I stood up, picked up my bike, and got to the side of the
street without any problems. All I had was a small bit of road rash on my
elbow. I was lucky!
However, I'm not writing this to
acquire oohs and ahhs, but to discuss one important lesson I learned from this
incident that applies very well to life in general. The basic lesson I learned
here was that, now that I am confident in hitting the ground and surviving, I
have actually become a much better rider. Of course, they do say that there are
only two types of motorcycle riders --- those who have gone down, and those who
--- Change and Balance ---
At the beginning of many of my
coaching sessions, my clients ask me why things fall apart, out of the blue,
once they get moving along in their lives. Believe it or not, there is an
answer. It has to do with balance, lessons, and traversing new and unknown
paths. In all cases, the only time we encounter challenges is when we decide to
move forward toward a new goal. In our movement, we throw our environment into
an imbalance causing a chain reaction of events around us to push balance back
into the situation.
We usually see this surge for
balance as a problem, challenge, or issue and then back off to fall back into
the safety of the original situation. But, realize, that such surges are merely
in response to your own desire to change. When you initiate change, your
environment creates an equal and opposite force against change. It is called "nature".
--- Crash and Burn ---
Once we are able to overcome the
initial inertia of change and move forward, we inevitably encounter challenges
that will cause us to stumble and fall. Such challenges are not in place to
cause us to quit, but are there to wake us up and make us realize that we can
endure much more than we thought we could and still continue along our path.
Falling enables us to see our own character and abilities to prepare us for the
future challenges. This is a stair-step approach to bettering ourselves and
becoming stronger in our resolve.
However, the important part of
falling is that you learn how far you have to go to hit the ground. In many
cases, we fear falling because it's going to hurt. Indeed, wiping out at 50mph
is painful, but survivable. But, once you know what it feels like and can
maintain your wits when you hit the ground, getting up and doing it again is
easy because you know that you will survive. In the end, you are better able to
pursue the ultimate goal because you are no longer afraid of falling, or
--- What's next? ---
I once heard the saying,
"if you fall on your face, at least you were moving forward." It's an
interesting statement because, the only way to fall forward is if you have
forward momentum when you fell. It's an excellent view to accept when moving
toward a goal as it can help make the potential falls easier to bear. This,
because, inevitably, we will fall. But, so many times we get caught up in the
negative aspects of failure, or falling. Instead, view it as a wake-up call or
a way to desensitize yourself so that you can focus on your goal. In this way,
future falls won't be so dramatic and our fear of falling won't get in the way
of achieving our desires.
About The Author
Edward B. Toupin is an author,
life-strategy coach, counselor, and technical writer living in Las Vegas, NV.
Among other things, he authors books, articles, and screenplays on topics
ranging from career success through life organization and fulfillment. For
more information, e-mail Edward at email@example.com or visit his
sites at http://www.toupin.com or http://www.make-life-great.com.
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