Working on Your
Groove
by: Rondell Demmings
We all come to a point in our
lives, like in the movie “How Stella Got Her Groove Back” that we lose sight of
who we are. Life has a person in so many different roles such as parent;
employee and spouse we tend to lose “us” in being there for others. Although
Stella got her groove back by meeting a man that was 20 years younger than her,
how do we know that Stella’s groove is going to stay? Stella still had some
matters in her life that she needed to clear up before taking a vacation to
Jamaica. Taking a vacation is a temporary fix. When you come back all the
problems are still there waiting on you.
In order to start working on
your groove you must first clear out the garbage that has been holding you back
from being happy. When I say garbage I mean the emotional matters in your life
that are holding you back from enjoying your life. If you are having a hard
time forgiving someone from your past this is an emotional problem that has to
be dealt with before you can move forward in your life. Holding on to the anger
is like walking around with an anchor attached to your heart. Any opportunities
that may come in your direction will be overlooked because you are still
anchored to the past. In the book “In the Meantime” by Iyanla Vanzant she
discusses how we have to start in the attic of our mind all the way to the
basement of our minds.
Physical matters can also hold
us back from getting our groove back. Say that you have been procrastinating on
cleaning your garage. The more you think about doing it and not taking the
action to do it will hold you back. In the movie, Stella was working at a job
that was very profitable but the stress was overwhelming. Her dream was to
build furniture and she wasn’t doing anything to make her dream a reality. Very
few people realize that the things we don’t do will drain us more than the
things we actually physically handle. As long as you procrastinate this brings
your energy level down and eventually makes it even harder to get accomplished.
Your subconscious starts accusing you of being lazy and after a while you
really start to believe what your mind is telling you is true. You have to
start taking baby steps to get back into action so that you will feel better
about yourself. If you have a dream on hold or something you need to accomplish
then take a certain amount of time either everyday or once a week to accomplish
whatever it is you would like to accomplish. You will see that once this matter
is complete you will feel a rush.
Once you have cleared up the
garbage then it is time to work on you. Now is the time to give yourself
special attention and figure out what makes you happy. During this period you
would be required to do something special for self on a regular basis. I take every
Thursday as my day for me. On this day I order carryout for the children and I
do whatever brings me joy. If it is just reading a book, this is what I do on
this day to give myself special attention.
Another thing you will have to
consider is eliminating people from your life that don’t enhance your life. If
you are in a relationship that you are doing more giving than receiving this
may be a matter to re-evaluate. I am not speaking only on romantic
relationships. This can also cover friends and family. Sometimes people have a
tendency of taking your kindness for weakness. As long as you don’t set
boundaries with these people they will keep on taking and not giving. You
deserve better! You have to realize that you have the right to be selfish. If
you don’t give yourself special attention on a “regular” basis who will? You
have to learn to say no. If it is something you don’t want to do or don’t have
time to do then simply say no. You don’t have to do anything in life that you
truly don’t want to do except maybe pay taxes.
About The Author
Rondell Demmings is President
and Founder of Visions Illuminated. She assists individuals in creating and
living the life of their dreams. She also assists psychic/tarot readers in
building a profitable home-based business on a shoestring budget. Rondell is
an online instructor with universalclass.com and author of the e-book “How to
Get Your Groove Back”. Visit her website at http://www.visionsilluminated.com
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