A Small Piece Of Carpet
by: Charlie Badenhop
Have
you ever noticed how the way you feel about yourself sometimes depends on
whether or not you get confirmation of your value from others? When you enter
into challenging situations with a positive self identity you will discover
that you are living your life with a greater sense of enjoyment and
fulfillment.
I have
learned a lot about nurturing a positive identity of love and appreciation from
the man who taught me to train dogs. Dogs and humans both have a "self
identity" that determines perception of the world, behavior, and one's
sense of self worth. Let me explain how my teacher nurtured a positive self
identity in the dogs he trained.
Frank
had a very fascinating way of helping the guard dogs he trained, to feel
respected, protected and loved, regardless of the situation/context they were
in. Here is how he accomplished this. First of course, he started out by
treating his dogs with love and respect, and by showing them an infinite amount
of patience as they were learning. This of course is crucial.
Then,
the next thing he did was a true stroke of genius. He would cut a small piece
of carpet for each dog he trained. He would place the carpet in the dog's
sleeping area, for him to lie on each night. He would also take this carpet
during the day and set it down in various locations, and sit the dog on the
carpet, as he praised the dog for being good. Whenever he moved to a new
location, he would have the dog stand up, and he would pick up the carpet and
carry it to the new location, set it down, sit the dog down, and again, praise
the dog for being a "good boy." Soon the piece of carpet took on the
distinct odor of the dog, and Frank said that this led the dog to feel "at
home" when sitting on the carpet.
Next,
Frank would teach the dog to pick up the piece of carpet himself, and carry it
to wherever they were going. The dog would then set the piece of carpet down
when they stopped, and sit on top of it, with Frank all of the time praising
him for being a good dog. Now Frank said, "The dog begins to feel that he
truly belongs in every place that he travels to, and no matter where he goes,
he receives my love and appreciation. Soon the dog takes on this love and
appreciation as the primary core of his identity."
And I
ask you now, if this strategy works so brilliantly with dogs, would the same
basic strategy not work just as well with human beings? Ask youself,
"What is the small piece of carpet you carry around with you wherever you
go?" "Would your life not be very different if you changed your piece
of carpet to one of self love and appreciation?"
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About
The Author Charlie
Badenhop is the originator of Seishindo,
an Aikido instructor, NLP trainer, and Ericksonian Hypnotherapist. Benefit from his thought-provoking ideas
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