Lunacy at its
Finest ... Crazymakers and Intimidators In Your Life!
by: Edward B. Toupin
Did you ever run into that
person that just nags and picks and scares you into submission? How about that
person that appears to turn your world upside-down? What about that person that
literally sucks the energy right out of your soul? Believe it or not, these
people do exist and they can affect you in ways you never thought possible.
--- Crazymakers ---
A Crazymaker is someone who
feeds on negative energies and tends to pull everyone around them into major
melodramas. They are the type of people who have to either be the savior, the
"I told you so", or the center of a situation. They will do anything
to take a calm and easy situation and turn it into a disaster to place them in
the middle. They will then come in and act as though it was your fault just to
feed off of your negative vibes and become the hero. Then, when you confront
them about their ways, they feel as though you're projecting your own
weaknesses onto them and they suddenly begin to behave like a psychologist. Or,
they will turn from their brutal ways into a simple victim and wonder why the
world hates them so much.
I have known several Crazymakers
in my life and, sadly, in my early years, I fell for their behaviors simply
because I was not wise enough to know what they were doing. They worked hard to
gain my trust and then turned around and created so much turmoil that it was as
though I was caught in a tornado. I turned from a confident individual to a
half-witted cow caught in the updraft of the spiraling winds!
There are several ways to deal
with a Crazymaker, but the best way is to simply let them roam in their
self-loathing world --- you need to simply stay away. But, you have to be quick
enough to identify these types of people because, amazingly enough, they strike
fast and hard and the minute you falter, they jump in like vultures on a dead
--- Intimidators ---
While Crazymakers go out of
their way to achieve power through chaos and negative energies, Intimidators go
out of their way to achieve power from fear. These types of people are calm and
cool on the outside and mean-spirited on the inside. They tend to work against
you to instill self-doubt and act as though "they have you pegged."
They do this using pre-determined scripts into which they try to place you so
that they can control your moods and direction. In the end, as you become
frustrated and fall into their scripts that define whom "they think you
should be," they too increase their levels of angst to keep you down and
under their spell.
The best way to deal with such a
person is to simply let them run through their scripts and avoid falling prey
to their imposed directions. They are not easy to spot as they tend to become your
best friend and then, they slowly turn the situation to their personal benefit.
You never know what hit you because the transition occurred at a slow pace and
you begin to think it's your own fault for the failure of the situation.
--- What's next? ---
Crazymakers and Intimidators
enjoy their task because it gives them satisfaction in knowing that they have
taken control over a situation. They are interested in predetermined responses
to their actions. This is important to them because, generally, they don't have
control over anything else in their lives. Additionally, by making you look
less than desirable allows them to feel as though they are better than you and
those around them. In the end, it is easier for them to live off of the
negative energies that they create. They cannot live in a world of positive
energies and "equals" because they feel inferior to other human
Crazymakers and Intimidators are
smart in that they know how to manipulate people and situations in what they
think of as a "test of survival." However, they don't know how to
react when their ploys don't work. Your best bet is to notice these types of
personalities and put them on the back burner. Any type of response in their
favor pushes the ball further into their court.
Over the years I have
generalized some signs that come in handy for determining if either of these
personalities is near. If someone comes to you and purposefully says something
that goes completely "against your grain," then they are an Intimidator.
If someone dramatizes a situation or somehow works to play one side against
another simply to become the savior, they're a Crazymaker. However, over time,
if you observe others, you will be able to recognize these types of people and
identify your own "tell-tale" indicators.
About The Author
Edward B. Toupin is an author,
life-strategy coach, counselor, Reiki Master, technical writer, and PhD
Candidate living in Las Vegas, NV. Among other things, he authors books,
articles, and screenplays on topics ranging from career success through life
organization and fulfillment. Check out some of his recent print and
electronic books as well as his articles covering various life-changing
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