... When is Enough, Enough?
by: Edward B. Toupin
I had the most interesting
discussion today with a friend of mine. He and I were chatting about the
economy, his job, families, and life in general. The one point that he kept
raising was that of his "needing to do more" to pay the bills, be
with his family, get promoted at work, fix the hot water heater, etc. It's
always the "need to do more" to better accommodate more.
I had to stop and think for a
minute --- more for more? That doesn't make sense! If you have to do more, to
handle more, yet there is no more time and energy and your quality of life
decreases with each "more" you acquire --- that means that somewhere
in the prior "mores" was a break-even point. There must have been
some point in there where "more" was enough and everything was great
--- yet we missed the peak because we were busily looking at something
--- Is less more? ---
I always wondered what that
meant --- "less is more". Actually, you have to have something to begin
with to have less and know what this means. I remember during the fires in
Colorado --- we went from living in a gorgeous, huge house, on a mountain, to
living in a pickup truck and hotel room for two weeks. We had much less --- but
at that time we had everything we needed: my wife, myself, and the two dogs. We
were safe and realized that nothing else mattered --- our peak? Perhaps. But,
life went on and we rebuilt our lives around necessities instead of
"more". We now have everything we need, and a few things we want, but
we looked for that break even point and are now happier than ever before.
--- Where is my break even? ---
This point is different for
everyone, but the break even point, I've found, is when you have everything
that satisfies your core needs in life and you have the opportunity to take the
time and enjoy them all. Everything beyond that point begins to put stress on
your life, love, and career and the quality of life begins to decrease because
of the amount of energy and time involved in maintaining the "more".
The best way to determine your
break even point on your quality of life is to examine your basic needs such as
food, water, air, relationships, love, and self-satisfaction. Once you've
satisfied your core requirements of existence, then you can move forward to
attain your self-realization and achieve those things that you want to define
Many times, people grasp and
grab at anything they can because they are looking for something to satisfy
their needs and desires. In the process, they acquire a tremendous amount of
unnecessary clutter in their life and begin to run into time and resource
issues. But, they have all of this "stuff" to find that it was
nothing that they needed or wanted to satisfy their lives.
To achieve your break even, you
have to analyze what you want in life and only acquire those things, material
and spiritual, that are of benefit to your ultimate Vision and goals. Realize
that, if it doesn't drive your life forward, then it isn't necessary! Perhaps
you want family, career, and financial stability so that you can enhance your
quality of life. Indeed, a valiant goal, but what is keeping you from achieving
--- What's next? ---
I am not saying that you should
live in squalor! I am saying, live a life that is full and rich, but do so in
such a way that is beneficial to your Vision and does not diminish your quality
of life. Establish a Vision, define your Mission, and streamline your life to
achieve your goals. Don't meander through life and grab at just anything to
fill voids and dreams. Take hold of those things that mean something and truly
fulfill your dreams!
About The Author
Edward B. Toupin is an author,
life-strategy coach, counselor, technical writer, and PhD Candidate living in
Las Vegas, NV. Among other things, he authors books, articles, and
screenplays on topics ranging from career success through life organization
and fulfillment. For more information, e-mail Edward at email@example.com or
visit his sites at http://www.toupin.com or http://www.make-life-great.com.
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