by: Della Menechella
As a speaker and trainer, people
often approach me after one of my programs to tell me how excited they are
about the strategies they have learned and how they plan to put these ideas
into action. When I connect with these people later on and ask how the
techniques are working for them, I usually get answers such as “I really
planned to use them but then things got so crazy that I never had the chance.”
or “I tried them once and wasn’t successful so I gave up.”
Success, like anything else,
takes application and practice. Anyone who plays a sport or has achieved
expertise in any skill knows that it doesn’t happen the first time. They learn
what to do and then apply it over and over again until it becomes easy and
natural for them. They would never think of expecting to improve if they didn’t
apply what they had learned. However, they think different rules apply to
If you want to make a change in
your life or career, you must work with positive ideas until you can apply them
effortlessly. They need to become part of your operating system. The following
tips can help you do this more easily.
- Work On One Thing At A Time – Often people want to change many
things and they try to do it all at the same time. This can be
overwhelming. Choose one idea and work with it until you gain mastery.
Then you can work with another idea until you are successful with it and
so on. In this way you can make changes without a lot of stress.
- Determine What The Benefit Will Be To You – It’s great to want to
change, but if you aren’t aware of how you are going to benefit as a
result of the change, it is easy to get discouraged. How will achieving
this change make your life better? What value will it bring to you? It is much
easier to stay motivated when you have the answers to these questions.
- Recognize That You Might Initially Feel Uncomfortable – Sometimes
people give up working with a new idea because it feels uncomfortable.
They don’t want to deal with these negative feelings. Any time you try
something new it feels awkward. This is a temporary situation. As you work
with the new idea it will begin to feel more natural for you. It is all
part of the learning process.
- Commit To Using The Ideas For 30 Days – It is very easy to give up
if you don’t achieve instantaneous success. Make a commitment to apply the
idea consistently for 30 days. If something happens to interrupt the
process, then start again with your 30-day commitment. If you make the
commitment at the beginning of the process, you are more likely to achieve
- Appreciate Your Successes – As you work with the new idea,
recognize your successes. Maybe you are trying to deal more effectively
with stress. Congratulate yourself when you remember to breathe deeply
when you feel your stress starting to increase. When we recognize our
small successes it helps us achieve bigger successes.
- Be Patient With Yourself – Don’t be self critical if you find
yourself occasionally falling back into old patterns. You have been
operating in that manner for years. It is going to take time before you
fully integrate the new idea into your life. As you work with it on a
consistent basis, you will find that you revert to old patterns less and
Like anything of value that we
achieve in life, success takes practice. Make a commitment to put in the
practice time that is required so you can experience the wonderful rewards that
About The Author
Della Menechella is a speaker,
author, and trainer who inspires people to achieve greater success from the
inside out. She is a contributing author to Thriving in the Midst of Change
and the author of the videotape The Twelve Commandments of Goal Setting. She
can be reached at email@example.com.
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