Angry at the World
By Bret Burquest
Someone recently asked me if I was angry at the world. I may be continually at odds with the world but anger is an ugly emotion I choose to avoid.
If an apple fell out of a tree and hit me on the head I wouldnít allow it to anger me. I have no control over the falling of an apple. The best I can do is to try not to be standing in the wrong place at the wrong time.
The same is true of any harm or injustice inflicted upon me by the rest of the world. I have no control over the forces of nature or the actions of humanity. The only thing I have control over is myself.
This is a harsh planet containing predatory animals, poisonous reptiles, voracious insects, lethal viruses, severe climates, lightning, volcanoes, earthquakes and misguided human beings who are driven to control, plunder and otherwise make life miserable for everyone else.
Those who seek to control others insist on a rigid set of rules to satisfy their individual sense of right and wrong. They require conformity on everything from what you can drink or smoke or shoot up your arm to the height of the grass in your front lawn. And if you refuse to conform you must be punished. These are the people most active in government, continually creating more and more rules for the rest of us to obey. Invariably, they exceed the bounds of common sense and decency. One personís set of rules is another personís imprisonment.
Some of these control freaks carry their cause way too far. They believe their way is the only way and are willing to annihilate anyone who doesnít feel the same way, even if they must perish in the process. These zealots will shoot people at random or blow up buses or fly airplanes into tall office buildings in order to make the world a better place. However, making the world a better place by making the world a worse place isnít exactly a positive course of action. One personís philosophy is another personís pile of gibberish.
The world is also occupied by selfish greed-heads who never seem to have enough material wealth and plunder from others in order to maintain a lifestyle they have neither earned nor deserved. They come in all shapes and sizes, from corporate executives to cat burglars. They take from others by whatever means necessary with no regard for the welfare of others. One personís illicit gain is another personís loss.
Then there are those inconsiderate jerks who thoughtlessly plow through life as if no one else exists. They come in all shapes and sizes, from housewives to hooligans. They drive carelessly or tear around in their ATVs and Jet Skis or toss their cigarettes anywhere or litter the environment or make too much noise with their loud music or destroy things for kicks or whatever. One personís recklessness is another personís nightmare.
If life were perfect, it would be called heaven. Instead we call it earth. The world is a perilous place full of people disturbing the tranquility and/or imposing their will upon others. Being angry only adds to the turmoil.†
Most people deal incorrectly with anger.
Some people try to get even but correcting a wrong with a wrong is simply another wrong.
Others believe the anger should be released through harmless outlets such as sports or beating a pillow. However, venting anger in a harmless direction is still indulging in anger.
The proper way to deal with anger is not to get angry in the first place.
If some scumbag disrupts your life, donít get angry. When you become angry, the scumbag wins. He wants you to be angry and bring you down to his level to justify his existence. He gets a thrill out of making you react, thereby controlling you. If you rise above it and remain noble, youíve won. Youíre in control, not the scumbag.
If an apple falls on your head, donít get angry. Youíre in control, not the apple.
Itís easy to be at odds with an imperfect world but being angry at the world is an exercise in futility, making it that much more imperfect.
You canít change the world -- you can only change yourself.
Forgive the apple and move on.
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Bret Burquest is an award-winning columnist and author of four novels. Contact firstname.lastname@example.org
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